Don’t think about the elephant in the corner…
Have you ever had a problem focusing your attention on a solution to the big problem over in the corner? An example might be the mortgage payment that is getting later and later. Maybe you have missed payments. The goal really isn’t to avoid being late on your payments. The real goal is to have and make money to keep the payments current. But the elephant in the corner keeps dragging you back over. “You have late payments,” might be the message you keep saying and hearing inside. The opportunities around you to make a big paycheck are being drowned out by that nasty elephant that just won’t go away.
What You Focus on Expands
If you focus on the elephant, the elephant grows to be the biggest thing in your world. Solving the problem becomes nearly impossible because the elephant is getting all of your attention. When you try your hardest to not think about the elephant, the elephant is all you think about. Each person creates the inner peace or discord that flows out into the world. We cannot create peace if our inner world is full of conflict, hatred, doubt or anger. We radiate the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we speak them or not. Whatever is going on inside of us spills out into the world, creating beauty or discord.
Unfocusing the Elephant
So what about the elephant? Every effort to NOT think about the elephant results in more elephant thoughts. The only way to unfocus the elephant is to focus on something else. Progress can only be made by focusing on the things that bring progress. If we focus on NOT failing, we’re focusing on failure. If we focus on SUCCESS, we can move away from the failure we wish to avoid. The mortgage can be paid when the funds required to do so are generated by successful ACTION.
Real Life Tip:
Don’t focus on what you don’t want. In other words, you MUST focus on the things you want to accomplish in your life. Failure is not an option, though sometimes it seems a pretty big elephant. SUCCESS. To your SUCCESS!